5 Steps to Encouragement (free e-book)
It is the end of February. It is sort of dark and gray and cold. I have piles of laundry. It took me all week just to vacuum the upstairs . . . I just kept walking past the vacuum cleaner thinking “I need to vacuum!” . . . I’ll get to that. My life keeps moving forward. But I feel stuck. I feel stuck behind a never-ending list of things to do, make, send . . .
My word for this year is intention, yet I’ve spent so many years living without intention . . . I’m finding my word to be burdensome.
Last night I was thinking I just want to stop the bus and get off. Just have some time away. Maybe get my hair cut, or my nails done, or buy a desk at a thrift shop–one I’ve had my eye on–but wanted my daughter to see it, like it before I buy it. It wouldn’t even need to be away–I want to be able to sit and not think about all the things that are swirling around me–the unfinished projects, the intentions gone south.
Just then my husband walks in and says–why don’t you go shopping tomorrow. You need a pair of boots (and I do really) “go out get a coffee and do some shopping”. In order to go to the fancy mall–that would be a 1/2 day trip (because I want to browse and not be rushed) . . . we live in a more rural area–shall we say. I resisted. My husband realizing that I could use a break, is giving me the gift of time, reflection, and boots! Yet, I resist. I want this time, I really need this time, but I’m pushing the idea away?
Why is it so hard for us to accept love and encouragement? I do my best to be encouraging and up lifting–yet I’m not always that way with myself. I believe it for them–but not for me.
“Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.”
I grew up serving others in healthy ways and in unhealthy ways. I grew up feeling powerless to make my own choices–yet felt guilty for not serving others. I grew up in fear a lot of the time. I grew up with in order to get you must give and nothing was free. I grew up feeling like I didn’t matter–I grew up being told I was a mistake.
Fast forward to now–I have an awesome life. I have a husband and kids who love me more than can even fit into words–yet sometimes–all of those years of not having an awesome life creep in . . . and fear, doubt, worry sneak back into my life. I feel invisible.
I need to be encouraged. I need to hear positive words. I need to see a flash of a smile and a crazy wave from a friend as I drive by her house. I need my husband to give me a morning off. I need hugs from my kids. I need prayers. I need grace. I need to give thanks, in everything. I need to feel authentic love–not someone just blowing a breezy means-nothing accolade–I need the real thing.
If I need it–I bet you do too! Who doesn’t?
I go through life with the intention of being a cheer leader! I want to inspire you. I want you to feel my love. I want you to smile when I do my silly dance or sing in my opera voice. I want to bring joy into the world. I want to give thanks–and I want you to know that I’m thankful for you. I want to feed the poor, take care of kids, hug every misfit dog and cat I see . . . I want to rescue the world and make everything “right.” My wise husband, gently tells me I can’t take care of everything–the way that I wished I would have been taken care of. He puts me on a love budget–I can’t spend more than I can take in . . .
Just when I was put on my love/save the world budget–my friend James Presscott wrote this awesome e-book. It is about encouragement! What a gift he is–just when I’m feeling discouraged I read his book . . . I feel encouraged. I spend some time reading it with myself in mind–then I focus on those I meet.
Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book.
Encouragement is never for our own benefit.
Encouragement is truth presented to others in the exact way it needs to be heard, at the precise moment a person needs to hear it.
You see, encouragement is important. Learning to receive encouragement is just as important as learning to give it.
Making your mind and heart receptive to any words of encouragement which are given to you. Being awake to notice what is being said to you, and about you.
I encourage you to get your own copy of 5 Steps to Encouragement. Just click here! James writes in a way the makes us want to encourage one another–his writing is natural and authentic.
I also encourage you to share it with others. The world would be a much happier place with smiles from the heart, gentle, loving, kind, respectful words–that need to be given and received. In my efforts to change the world, I’m reminded that it can all start simply–with an encouraging smile–how easy is that!
We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.
-Mother Teresa
Be Blessed AND encourage as many people as you can!
P.S. Yes, I did get a pair of great boots, I did check in at the adoption center to check in on the dog I want–he is adorable and deaf, and I bought the desk with the proceeds benefiting the adoption center. I brought the desk home, rearranged the entire homeschool room . . . finished vacuuming . . . it was an awesome day–all because my husband took a few minutes to encourage me.
Linking up I should be mopping the floor, Craftastic Party, motivation monday, create with joy, Busy Mondays, mindful mothering, and with Ann, The Better Mom, Rediscovering Domesticity, Titus 2 Tuesday, Teach Me Tuesday, Titus (2)sdays, Gradituesdays, Heart and Home, Whatever Works Wednesday, Wisdom Wednesday, Show and Share Wednesday, Saturday Show and Share.
Renee – you are our cheerleader! And an encourager! Wonderful post. It is a blessing to know you through Tribe Writers and the Encouragement launch tem.
thank you Joan! I think of myself as a positive person, yet this book gave me a new way of looking at encouragement.
Be blessed.
Renee, what a beautiful and inspiring post! It complements James’ Encourgement book so well.
Your site looks great! Inviting, encouraging, pleasing to the eye, layered, and both light yet deep.
Congratulations! I enjoyed it!
Blessings and light
thank you Katina–as always I love to read your encouraging comments!
Be Blessed.
So pleased you had this awesome half day to yourself, Renee, and bought the boots! What a beautiful gift your husband gave you to be encouraged to take necessary time out to recharge and be uplifted in the process. I identify with the feelings you had growing up as such was my world too. It has also made me determined to be there for others, to share and show the love and grace I was denied. A beautiful post and a lovely blog. I’m delighted to have discovered it and met you through James’ group. Keep on being a blessing and allowing others to do the same for you. :)
Joy,
Thanks you so much for stopping by! James is really an encouragement to me–and your words are inspiring. Isn’t it strange how we give what we were denied?
Be Blessed.
I really need to know what kind of boots you bought. well, I don’t really need to know but know that you would enjoy sharing that info with me since we trade boot recommendations! I miss you!
I’ll post a picture on FB–1 brown, 1 dark gray, one black . . . yes three pairs–I fell the Holy Rita Shopping Spirit! No–it was a huge sale–so the prices were great but the selection wasn’t the best.
Be Blessed.
Why IS it so hard for us to allow others to bless us? My hubby makes time so he can be “on duty” with the three littles so I can take an uninterrupted hour-long bath complete with kindle and wine. I rarely go. WHY??? Ah – that is the same reason why it has taken me since 2009 to make an appointment for new glasses. I made one this week! Thanks for the encouragement, friend!
Thanks for sharing this with the Thrive @ Home link-up! I will have to check out that book. :)