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What’s Your Title?

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Do you use labels for people?  

I do.  We love to give titles.  SAHM, WAHM, Nurse, Dentist, School Volunteer, Lunchroom Mom, Lawyer, Soccer Mom, . . . the list is never-ending.  Then we attach expectations to those labels and titles. Then we feel like we need to live up to those titles.  Then we lose ourselves and others lose site of who really are and treat us based on a word or words.  I have a new title–I’ll get to that in a sec.

my retired changing table! I had to take a picture before it went away!

my retired changing table! I had to take a picture before it went away!

If you have been following along on the blog–finding my purpose has been a big part of what I write about.  It is where I’m at in my discovery process.  I had an entire life of work and play before I had kids.  I’ve been a 24/7 Mom for the last 12 years and now I’m feeling like maybe, just maybe I can exchange my diaper changing moments with writing about life changing moments!

the most awesome toilet seat! a little potty right inside!

the most awesome toilet seat! a little potty right inside!

I’m a Mom in the Middle!

That is my title at this moment.  MITM!

  1. My kids aren’t babies but they aren’t grown either.
  2. I don’t have a desire to work full-time but I want my work to be more than volunteer.
  3. I’m not as skinny as I was in the past but I’m not as big as I was (just a few months ago)!!!
  4. I’m not running 5 minute miles anymore but I’m happy with 12 minute miles.
  5. I don’t have a changing table but we still need stools for little ones to reach the faucet.
  6. Our bathroom is filled with bath toys, anti-pimple scrub and wet towels on the floor.
  7. In not a “new” mom anymore but I still have so much to learnWhen I was pregnant–I read books telling me the day eyelashes developed . . . now I read books by Emily Freeman Grace for the Good Girl: Letting Go of the Try-Hard Life and Holley Gerth You’re Already Amazing: Embracing Who You Are, Becoming All God Created You to Be.

I love being a Mom In The Middle!

 Did I say love?  What I really meant is that I am warming up to the idea of having my babies grow up (not changing diapers), to having some time for me, to contemplate what is next.  It is a little scary!

What title would you give yourself?  Are you a Mom In The Middle?  or do you remember being a MITM–did you embrace it?

Be Blessed on your journey.

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I am a Writer.

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I’m a writer.  That is was SHOULD have come out of my mouth when the women behind the counter at the doctors’ office asked “what do you do?”.

The question “what do you do?” caught me completely off guard.  My mind had a Secret Life of Walter Mitty, by James Thruber–moment.

Did she mean:

  • what were the 500 things I had to do that morning in order to get everyone out the door at 7:30 am–armed with backpacks, lunches, car schooling supplies, notes for one kid to take the bus home with another kid, making sure I had my previous medical records, the iPad, packing the basketball uniform in the backpack because that kid isn’t coming home before the game, getting dinner in the crock pot . . .
  • did she mean what am I planning on doing?
  • did she mean what do I do on an average day?  (no such thing)
  • the mental list went on and on about what I “do”.

Finally, after several moments of quiet, she asked me again–“what is your job?”, and again my mind couldn’t come up with one word.

Again, several moments went by, she asked “do you stay home” and that really sent me into a mind spin because–no, I’m rarely home.  I’m on the road A LOT or I’m getting everyone ready to be on the road.

I should have just said that I’m a writer.  That would have made her happy–but then she would have asked me “what do your write about?”.

I write about people like you–I would explain.  Then go back into the secret life inside my own mind–where I am free to be and I’m not labeled with just one word.

I’ve written a lot about finding my purpose, my journey, and where I want to go . . . but first I want to experience each moment to the fullest and find joy–

that is what I want to do–then write about it.

After I finished writing this . . . I had a nagging feeling.  It wasn’t what I wanted it to say.  Yes, I’ve very excited to go back and reread and redo the chapter of my life about writing. Writing all those years for other people and now I write for me and you.

But it isn’t really about being a writer–it is about writing about the being.  

Writing is how I share the excitement in my everyday boring/not always exciting, life is hard, different each day, not what I planned, routine–how can it be routine yet unplanned?  That’s what I can’t explain–I start out each day with a plan–and life happens!  The items on the list may not get checked off but “real life” is about the things that AREN’T on the list.

So the next time someones asks about what I do–I will say– “I write about being.”, (thinking of adding a “DUDE” so they have a better sense of the free to be vibe . . . even if I said all of that.  Some people still won’t get it.  (I’m ok with that–now at this season in my life.)

Be Blessed.

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