How to be a Mentor
Yesterday I wrote about the role of a Titus 2 women and mentoring.
I had a few comments on the blog–and a few more discussions in real life . . . and then I wanted to say more.
Women who are mentors need to be:
- transparent (are you hiding something?)
- authentic (true to your soul)
- genuine (not fake)
- open and loving (not just when it is easy)
- admit mistakes (without assigning blame to others)
- take responsibility for ALL of their actions and their words (not just the good things)
- be “real” (not head shot perfect of FB photo real)
- know what grace looks like (UNMERITED help from God–he doesn’t have to give it)
- be able to “in everything, give thanks” (the verse I live by!)
- understand the importance of silence and quiet (Jesus had a mountain top–find yours and got there often)
- seek approval from God only (not your husband, your mother, the media or what your friends are doing)
- surrender themselves (to give it all up to God–open your hands and hand it all over to Him and amazing things will happen).
I am not all of these things. I am some. On good days more than other days. This is my list now–I’m sure as I grow in my walk with the Lord and my mentors–my list will also grow.
Be Blessed as we enter this time of thanksgiving and then rebirth with the new year. If being a mentor what you should be doing–God will show you.
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Thank-you for being one of my mentors!
Thank you Jessica–I’ve taught you how to slam doors with grace! I’m awesome! NOT! Some days are just harder than others–you have seen me at my best and at my worse! Thanks for loving me through it all!
Be Blessed, friend!
Glad you shared.
Really great truths shared here! I have a lot of work to do, still God’s grace will see me through them all! Thanks a lot and have a super blessed day!
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It is a journey–thanks for making this place part of yours.
Be Blessed.
Great list! I like your reminder when you say, “I am not all of these things. I am some.” I have to remember to extend grace to myself. Sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves. Have a great Thanksgiving, Renee!
Thanks Eileen you too! We need to love and honor ourselves first before we can show other women . . . it’s really leading my example, isn’t it.
I am not always the best. I’m a door slammer!
Be Blessed.
Only with the Holy Spirit at work in us are we able to be mentors to others:) I love what you wrote about the Titus 2 woman! You are a great example for those who look up to you!
Thanks Kelli–just checked out your “mission” place and “liked” it! You have some inspiring words.
Be Blessed.
I think you must be a fabulous mentor. These are all such good qualities to cultivate. Happy Thanksgiving, my friend.
Thanks for your vote of confidence! I realize that we (women) need different mentors to meet us where we are–so I guess I could be a mentor to the right person at the right time–but I don’t need to worry about that–God will provide, a mentor for me and for me to have the grace filled opportunity to be a mentor.
Be Blessed.
That’s a challenging, convicting list of traits. Some I have achieved. Some God is still working in me. Thanks for sharing! (Visiting from OYHT linkup.)
Laura,
We are all a work in progress–some days are better than others! We plan our days, our workouts, our menus but often times I think we forget to plan our actions!
Be Blessed.